Easy First Moves
A guy's first approach has to be his best... and this is what you need to know
Do Your Part And She Will Do Hers
Be the man
of a woman's fantasy
The only path to creating ultimate attraction when it comes to a woman is to open the floodgates of her imagination and fantasy and then help her live that world through you.
This might sound impossible but it's not, because
once you have sparked her fantasies, she will do her best to go along
with the fantasy version of you, because we are all starving to get out
of this mundane existence and we will suspend our disbelief to
experience a more intoxicating and higher emotional plane of existence.
So if you do your part, a woman will gladly do her part, and this allows
her to, for all intents and purposes, live her fantasy, for the mind
does not distinguish between an emotion that is experienced through
fantasy or through reality, as long as it is experienced.
That is why, right now, when you recall a specific happy memory in
explicit and full detail, you will experience the emotion. It is not
"fake". The emotional experience is real.
The thing about all this is that some of these fantasies and types of
personalities are extremely powerful and are not necessary nor always
even smart for attracting a woman for a casual sexual relationship or a
one-night stand kind of thing.
We are talking about compulsive, massive attraction, and you don't want to hurt a
girl by creating this level of attraction and then jumping ship. In
fact, a girl that's looking for something casual might get emotionally
freaked out by your level of intense fantasy since she knows it will lead to
her feeling
massive intense emotions, and she's obviously not ready for that or she
wouldn't be only looking for the casual hookup.
If you just want the one night stand, go in there, tease the girl,
get her laughing, then lean back some more and chill out and make small
talk and physically escalate.
And in fact, that is solid game for starting off with just about any
woman. You can often also escalate to this other stuff as she gets to
find out more about you.
Okay, so more on this whole other dimension of attraction and her
fantasies.
How do you open up the floodgates to her sexual fantasies and
imagination?
The best thing to first do is realize that not every woman is the same
in this department.
You're better off to first figure out which type of fantasy your real
character would most naturally fall into, and then cultivate that. And
then be that person always, and the women who are into that will
certainly be drawn to you.
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For example, if you are a brooding, tormented soul, that might not be
the best match for showing her the wild bad boy. And if you are a wild party
guy at heart, then trying to turn yourself into the tormented artistic
soul might not be the best match to attract her.
The dark soul, the brooding artist, attracts many women because he is
unaffected by her beauty since he is so far beyond that into his own
world, his own emotional creations, etc.
Also, when he does connect with her emotionally, his passion is intense
and he also has an uncanny ability to pace her emotional reality, so he
knows exactly what to do when, because he is brilliant at understanding
emotion. He can be in sexual sync both physically and mentally with her
at a level that no other guy has ever done.
You have to choose your identity, who you are going to be, and it makes
sense to choose who you most closely fall into and polish that. It's far
more natural that way, and far less work for you as well.
Are you the Donald Trump type? The go-getter who thrives in that
high-power business environment?
Are you more the passionate artist type?
Distant, brooding, moody, yet emotionally brilliant and on fire with
your art and worldly interpretations?
Are you the adrenaline junkie, the race car driver skydiving bad boy
type?
The party animal who just breathes that and loves that scene?
An adventurer, outdoor type who builds his own cabin, does his own
hunting, etc.? These categories can sometimes overlap, but can also totally cancel each
other out, so common sense prevails here.
One thing though about any of these identities, you can still never
break any of the "laws of physics" of attraction. Giving her the
emotional sensation of you as being excellent, as being cool, is still
paramount, and so is the importance of you creating that connection so
that when she does get the pay-off of your validation she feels boosted
by it. And of course I cover all this in my materials, and in an
advanced manner in my Seduction Mastery CD Set.
Think about which type of identity you most closely resemble
personality-wise, and then polish it up. Dress the part.
Look, the reality is that we are all constantly just playing different
roles. The question is, is the role you are playing serving you?
We play the role of a father, son, brother, employee, supervisor, boss,
citizen, and we act different in all these roles. We don't behave the
same with our friends as we do with our parents, as we do with grandma
or with the bus driver or your brother or sister or the police etc. And
yet these are all still true dimensions of ourselves.
So why not choose the role that turns women on the most, and that most
closely suits you anyway, and cultivate it?
If you're not sure of who you are, think of what your passions are.
Develop yourself in that direction.
I could write infinite material on this, but let me just state right
here, that clearly, the different identities I outlined briefly above in
terms of attractive identities that capture a woman's imagination, these
personas speak differently, dress differently, spend their free time
differently, etc.
I'm going to now transition to a slightly different topic now, but it's
still related.
In 1971, a Stanford university professor conducted an experiment
observing the effects of prisoner and guard behavior and the effect of
taking on these roles.
15 students took part, and a section of the basement of the university
was turned into a prison, complete will cells. 7 students took on the
role of guards, 7 took on the role of prisoners.
One student was the warden. The guards were not allowed to physically
harm the prisoners, but were allowed to do just about anything else to
show them who was "in charge".
The experiment was supposed to last 2 weeks.
They had to end the experiment after 6 days, because the guards had
become outright psycho and cruel beyond belief. And every student,
before the experiment was started, was checked out to make sure they
were mentally and emotionally sound and fine.
Also, virtually no one challenged the ethics of the experiment. Not the
parents, not the minister who visited them, no one.
They all simply accepted their roles and the thought that this was just
"not real" was not even existent anymore.
What does this have to do with your success with women?
Plenty.
If pretending to be a role for only six days is enough to get you to
change your concept of reality, how massive do you think the impact
would be to you if you redefined your own "role", your own identity? For
example, instead of taking on the role of the guy who does not approach
women, take on the role of a guy who does. You will believe you are what
you continuously do.
Second, another point I need to bring up is the fact that women have
been given a massive role in society to act hard to get. But it's just a
role! A role, however that is rarely challenged, because most guys take
on the role of the submissive!
They kiss up, buy women things for no good reason except out of hope the
woman will stay with them because of it, etc. I can honestly say that
it's been several years since I ever bought a woman anything in the hope
that she would like me more because of it. The only time I buy a woman
anything is after it's clear she is into me with no money-strings
attached.
There have been times when this role that I took on was challenged by
some women, but I truly believe it is crazy for a guy to buy a woman's
affection, it's absurd and an insult, so I really am congruent with my
role.
And that leads to me giving the woman I am with a new role, the role of
respecting a guy who doesn't take b.s.
Most people have weak mindsets, and so they just follow the masses. They
take on any role they are given if it comes from "the matrix" i.e. "it's
what you are supposed to do" even if it makes no sense. But by the same
token, if they meet someone who has a stronger frame of reality, and who
will give them a different role and totally believe that it is the right
thing, then people will accept the new role.
i.e. If you have a strong enough frame of your reality, you can then
give a woman a different role with you than the one she has with other
guys.
You are the guy that she respects. The other guys are the guys that she
plays for money, favors, and emotional abuse.
I'm being a little harsh here, because not all women are like that, but
definitely most women are used to the role that society has given them
of getting gifts and being the ones to screen the guy, and not the other
way around. This was a joke back in the day 50 years ago, because men
had infinitely more power than women then. Not now though, now with
women's equality, which is a cool thing, it only makes sense that if men
kiss ass, men are actually now in an inferior position. Before, it was
charming, now it's self-destructive.
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